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10 Life Changing Questions About You

Changing ourselves can often be the crucial moment when we emerge a better person. With all the obvious benefits, like more friends, greater popularity, improved relationships, even a better job. It's all about you. It's entirely up to you. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself if you care about who you are, how you come across to others (including the opposite sex) and where you want to be in, say one year from now. 1. Do I really need to change? Today's generation has taken another level of redefining 'self', or at least that's what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle . 2. What do I really want from life? The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day. Find something that you are good a

Do You Really Know What You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

I suggest, probably no. I didn't - although I thought I did. Even worse, I listened to what other people thought and, foolishly, took their advice. I mean, what do they know about me and my destiny? There are so many factors to weight up that the single consideration of an ideal profession in the eyes of a 16 year-old or a 19 year-old doesn't have enough substance. What do I mean by that? In those days immediately after leaving school or college or university we are rather take with the idea of a "good profession", of a good income and, let's face it, what other people say. A few years down the track, we become more drawn to a career we might enjoy, one that gives us satisfaction, where we might just look forward to getting up in the morning and facing the day. What I learned in my life is that it's never too late to make the change. In my case that meant bankruptcy of my freelance business but, in the long run, it was worth it. More, it s

Beware The Big Bad Wolf

I'm sure you remember the story of Little Red Riding Hood and the Big Bad Wolf. Suppose that Red represents the innocent child only recently born into the world and that her Grandma is her at the end of her life. She is heading through the woods which stand for life and all the dangers and troubles she will encounter. Now, here is the central concept of this book. Her purpose in visiting her Grandma. To deliver to her the basket of goodies. But along the way the Big Bad Wolf puts in an appearance and ends up replacing Grandma and in fact tries to impersonate her in her bed. The basket of goodies symbolises what Red was born with, her uniqueness, her special qualities and talents, her destiny - the ingredients for the goodies which are what she has made with her unique talents. By taking the basket of goodies through the forest - her life - to Grandma, Red at the end of her life, is she trying to tell us something no-one else is telling us? That we were no

Says Bing Crosby: "You Could Be Swingin' On A Star"

I have fond memories as a school kid of attending a school concert in which a popular 1944 song was used to build an act in which kids dressed up as a pig, a mule, a fish, a monkey and more. The song was titled 'Swingin' On A Star' with lines like: or would you rather be a pig, mule, fish, monkey, etc. In the same song were words very much aimed at the grown-ups, some good advice that still holds true today for all of us trying to figure out how to negotiate the minefield of life. Those words were: and be better off than you are, you could be swingin' on a star (or would you rather be a pig, etc.?). * Listen to the full song in the original Bing Crosby version from 1944 on YouTube here . I think we all have, at some point of our life, dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big or important. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Maybe a sporting champion or a rock star or a famous movie star? How many ti

10 Personal Questions To Help You Be All You Can Be

We tend to feel somewhat contented with our lives the way things are, but of course it's hard to think of anything else other than the status quo. Yet I think we all aspire for something deeper and more meaningful. We admire our heroes whether they be of the sports kind or the greats from the past or people who reach the pinnacle of society. So what about you? How can you be better than you are today? We're all bombarded with problems. Surely it shouldn't even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Our aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks… or can they? Often our childhood dreams and activities are a sign of what we can or should become in later years to be successful and happy. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself about becoming that person you would like to be and are meant to be. 1.

What Are You To Do With Your Life?

It seems to me that it's a question on pretty much everyone's mind. Everyone alive wants answers. And it seems to me that we've largely failed to provide adequate answers. Not the politicians. Not our traditional religions. Certainly not our friends. Or the social media where so many look for answers to their day-to-day problems. Definitely not the media or the daily news bulletins or the endless current affairs programs designed to be giving us a balanced view of life and the world we are living in. What about the popular glossy magazines with, supposedly, all the answers to the dilemmas of our lives? I don't think so. We've surely been let down somewhere along the line. Look at the suicide rate, the depression, the mental illness and, indeed, the disillusionment with our modern world. Am I being too harsh? Well, maybe all is not doom and gloom, because in contrast to the picture I've painted here I've learned from life that we've been looki